February 3rd, 2009
Over the past two days or so I have seen many people speaking on the truth. There was a lady
on the radio saying she was happy with the fact that her man treated her nice but he cheated on
her. Another comment was about understanding why even though we know honesty is the best
policy why we still can’t always be honest with some people…
This is a complicated question and an even bigger issue as this is a problem overall in society.
Truth in relationships –
There are different kinds of relationships family, friends, lovers, associates, coworkers, this list
can go on.
Within all these relationships people always say they would just like to have an honest
relationship. An honest relationship starts at home and with ourselves. Some people feel as if
honesty is best used if tempered with dishonesty. You don’t tell a person they look fat when they
ask you tell them they could try on something else something along those lines. But the
question is, “do they look fat?”
A man and woman go on a date and the man never tells the woman he is seeing other women.
However the woman never asked. He did say he was not looking to commit but got sexually
involved with her anyway and then decides he is not interested. Was he dishonest if he did not
tell her about seeing other women?
Two cases of extreme and opposite ends but you get the drift.
If we are friends and we are having issues and given the opportunity to fix it you do nothing. But
yet you see me out and want to act chummy like nothing happened are you truly being honest to
the friendship. Once again HONESTY starts at home. A cheater is a cheater and a liar is a liar.
If you choose to be fake with a person why would you expect them to be honest with you?
As a person said to me the other day Passive aggressive is really dishonesty in itself. Where
you think you are being polite you are basically just telling people you do not know how to be
honest and you rather be fake and full of shot instead of solidifying real relationships with you
and anyone else.
I have seen people smile to others face and then turn around and hug them and act like they
are the best of friends. Is that really cool? As adults did we not lose that high school behavior
there in high school?
When did we forget the rule love thy neighbor as I love thyself. In the extreme of it all when you
are fake and lie to someone you are basically saying you expect the same actions and attitude
in return. Which if that is the case why bother in the first place.
Honest for some reason in every level has become complicated but yet we are taught as kids
it’s so easy to do. You are disciplined to tell the truth always as a child. But as we get older and
deal with more people we actually grab into the thought of being dishonest with people. Or
should I say not really telling the entire truth. A lot of our relationships have become more
business like instead of genuine. We invite people into our life and then we blow them off and
turn around and smile like oh there is no issue we are cool just to save face and not cause
What is wrong with just being honest and saying hey we don’t get along, or you were not feeling
me I was not feeling you… Or even hey I just want sex and I am not looking for much else.
The biggest issue if find is people who are willing to accept the lies and dishonesty and then
continue it thinking its okay because other people do it. Women accept their boyfriend cheating
on them and oh well he treats me well and treats my kids good too. So it’s okay. Do you not
know what kids hear they repeat? What kids see they are doomed to do to a degree?
Honesty is something that trickles down to every facet in life and if you can’t begin to be honest
with yourself then who can you be honest with? If you can’t accept your small failures in life and
or your imperfections then you are just willing to continue the lie and want your friends and
family to do the same.
HONESTY SOMETIMES IF MOST OF THE TIME HURTS… BUT IT WOULD HURT LESS IF
YOU HAD THE SELF RESPECT AND UNDERSTANDING THAT WHEN A PERSON IS
TAKING THE TIME TO BE HONEST WITH YOU THEY ARE SAYING IN FACT I LOVE YOU
AS MY FAMILY AND I WANT US TO HAVE A REALTIONSHIP BASED OFF MUTUAL
RESEPCT AND TRUST… IF I KNOW YOU’RE FULL OF SHIT AND NEVER SAY ANYTHING
AND YOU AS WELL HOW GOOD OF FRIENDS ARE WE…
THIS IS JUST MY TAKE GOOD OR BAD!!!!!!!!